There's an issue going around which is about ladies and gentlemen in relationships. Finding the right person or not finding a good person.
Some ladies say they always end up with shitty guys who think small and claim to wanna be in a relationship with them and can't commit and go around cheating... I'll say this it's difficult to find a young guy who is ready to commit because they wanna explore till they find the right one. same goes for the ladies. But if you're a lady and you really want to build a relationship with a guy, you should understand that young guys are usually spontaneous and would wanna try new things hence, they tend to cheat because they're looking for a crazy girl for fun.
There's a lot about this issue in particular. But I'll just list some tips on what to do if you find yourself falling for a young guy.
1. Be watchful: I always tell ladies not to put all their eggs in one basket (don't give your heart 100% into a relationship) give him about 50% of your heart just in case he is the type who's out for fun.
2. Take notes: when you suspect he's giving too many excuses and you feel there's something up, be careful coz a ladies intuition is usually right most times. When you start having a strong feeling that he's not being true to you, pay attention to it. Either you give him space or you find something to keep you busy.
3. Don't Focus on Him: don't spend your time with him trying to build him up. Some ladies feel badly hurt when they build a guy, trying to encourage him and focus her energy on encouraging him or trying to find out the girls he's making secret calls with or stuff that will only hurt you. So rather instead of putting your energy into him, focus more on yourself and building yourself up. Focus on your job or your talent. "Mind your business" with time, either he re-alignes himself back to you or the relationship ends a natural death. You won't be hurt because you didn't put too much energy into him.
4. Take your time: this means that you shouldn't be too quick to accept a guy because he meets most of your requirement. If he really cares about you when asking you out, he should be real enough to make you his focus. Don't just rush into the relationship. Test him out. You could set a trap with your friends to see if he's really gonna fall for just any girl who's available. A guy who really wants a lady will be set on getting her. Although some guys could be really focused on getting a girl and once he's gotten her, he could then decide to misbehave. Then you'll have to set principles that you won't compromise just because your heart is into him.
5. Be realistic: talk about realistic stuff and plan out your relationship with him. A guy who can't be realistic and set goals, working towards them, might not be ready to settle down.
6. Be prayerful: am not disregarding any religion. It doesn't matter what religion you're in, you just have to pray to a higher being to help you out. You can't rely on your understanding to have a good relationship. So you have to pray to your God or god to help you out. Help you find the right one or how to keep the right one.
7. Don't Live in Fantasy: Don't envy any relationship nor aspire to have he kinda relationship you see in someone else. It could be a good one on the outside but every relationship has some down sides. Besides the relationship you envy today could end soon. Some people put on a loving show outside but on the inside, they're in a puddle of shit. So the best thing to do is look for relationships you see are good and ask them how they handle certain issues, put them together and analyze it. Not every relationship advice can work for yours because they are entirely different people in the Relationships. So pick what you can use and leave the rest. You can't use malaria medicine to treat hepatitis. So wishing your relationship can be like another person's own is just being unrealistic because your relationship can Never be like another person's own. Just as you are not 100% like the other person and your circumstances are not like that other person's.
But of course, if you're not thinking about settling down in the next 5yrs, these won't apply to you. If your just about having fun, you may be with a guy for fun so get ready for anything that comes along the way. Still at that, if you're not ready for marriage, don't put your heart deeply into any relationship you're in or planning to be in.
Getting the right relationship is based on luck. You might be lucky to be in a relationship which is the best and you can have as much fun as you want.
If you have questions, you can email them to me or drop a comment below and I'll get back to you. If I need to make a post to explain in details, I'll do that.
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